Everyone needs friends. People with a large network of friends outlive those who don’t. Having friends may lower your risk of depression, increase your self-esteem, and provide you with the support you need to make it through life. But, some types of friendships could be doing more harm than good.
Here are 3 types of toxic friendships to swap out of your life for better health and wellbeing.
The Negative Talker. If you have a friend who manages to put a negative spin on everything, you might want to consider spending less time around them. Research has shown that negative thinking can increase stress, lead to depression and even make you ill.
If you can, try to be friends with people who look on the bright side. Positive thinking can reduce levels of stress. In addition, positive thinking can increase your lifespan, improve your well-being and give you better coping skills for when things do get rough. That’s the kind of influence you want in your life!
The Cancelation Queen. Everybody flakes out at least once, but having a friend who does it all the time can be a real drag. It’s incredibly inconsiderate and can be damaging to your self-esteem when a person you care about acts like you’re not important to them.
Try to find more reliable friends instead. After being friends with people who constantly bail on you, it can seem kind of amazing to find somebody who actually shows up when you make plans. In fact, having a good friend nearby can improve your happiness by 25%.
The Dangerous Buddy. Wild nights are supposed to be a rare occurrence, but if every time you hang out with a friend you find yourself doing things you don’t really want to do (staying out insanely late, drinking too much, spending too much money), it might be time to cut ties before all those late nights take their toll on your liver, skin, and heart.
It helps to find more like-minded friends. Some great places to start are where you’re doing the healthy things that you like – at the gym or yoga studio, for example. Making a friend who shares healthy perspectives makes you more likely to go to the gym or yoga studio. One study has shown that when your friends gain weight, you’re likely to gain weight too.
If your friendships are throwing your life off track, don’t be afraid to replace negative ones with positive ones. Your body, your spirit, and your wallet will thank you.
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Julie Sacks is the Founder and CEO of Vie. Julie took the big leap from a successful career in publishing and marketing to become a Meditation teacher and Well-being entrepreneur, creating a modern movement for well-being. Launching a multistage business plan, starting with Vie’s website LiveYourVie.com, a growing community that includes experts, partners and thought leaders on mind, body, and soul. The site offers educational and inspirational content, celebrity interviews with doctors, athletes and chefs – all focused on how to live your healthiest and happiest life. Vie is purpose driven, and donates 10% of all profits back to the community in a partnership with the Sylvia Center, an organization which inspires children to eat well – so that they may lead healthy and productive lives. “Vie” is French for life.